tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5020255455496318059.post7818630546742367376..comments2023-06-02T04:02:56.826-07:00Comments on Two Moms Make a Baby: FamilyJKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09793255794713250546noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5020255455496318059.post-69818930418084037612008-01-17T05:33:00.000-08:002008-01-17T05:33:00.000-08:00I too think this is more than about shoes, but I w...I too think this is more than about shoes, but I would bend and let them wear them. It sounds by your description of them that they are bending on some level for their tastes. It is so hard in these situations to stay true to who we are and yet we want to be with (on occasion :-)) our families. Hope it goes well. Keep us posted.Alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01508611373270418684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5020255455496318059.post-17733467052373413122008-01-15T12:17:00.000-08:002008-01-15T12:17:00.000-08:00You are right, this isn't about shoes. I think th...You are right, this isn't about shoes. I think this is about something much bigger. My partner's mother is southern conservative baptist so I completely understand. In my opinion, you have to stand strong and believe in who you are. After all, you aren't asking them to become Unitarian Universalist (coincidently we are also UUs), nor vegetarian (we are also vegetarian), you are asking them to respect you, your partner and your home, just as you would likely respect their home if you were to visit. So, I see it as an issue around respect, not acceptance. <BR/><BR/>Remember who you are as an individual and a couple and do what you feel is right. I am sure I'm not the only one that says you've got support out here in blogland.LKChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05475483888039693549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5020255455496318059.post-73275895832913625302008-01-15T07:55:00.000-08:002008-01-15T07:55:00.000-08:00Hey, I think this might have just been an issue of...Hey, I think this might have just been an issue of miscommunication. Your dad/mom might think that by not wearing shoes they are worshiping an Indian religion. We know this is not true but they don't. Maybe explain why no shoes is not the same as worshipping a religion. Make it make sense for them by using an example based in your mom's religion (being brought up Catholic I don't have an idea that would fit with a protestant religion but I'm sure there's one). <BR/><BR/>You are now a stranger to them. You haven't lived with them in years or been around them much. It's scary to visit strangers no matter if they are your own kids. <BR/><BR/>I imagine that they feel like you are judging them. It sounds ridiculous but they think you are judging their whole way of life and how they brought you up and who they are. I know that's not true but they don't. You are more worldly than they will ever have the chance to become and that scares them. They can no longer protect you from the pain and the things that happen to people when they are out in a big world. In small town, white, religious Florida, they know how to operate. <BR/><BR/>Remind them that you are who you are because of how you are raised and that all of this wouldn't be possible without them. You are a good person because they gave you that foundation. You are intelligent because they fostered a love of learning and exploring in you from an early age. <BR/><BR/>I know all of this is easier said then done but I think this is the only way to move forward. And if you have to buy your dad a pair of slippers so he's comfortable in the house, you should do it. <BR/><BR/>-AAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com